Recently, I was able to finally get together with my preschool group of mom friends. We first met when our kids were between 0-3 and we had an instant bond. We had each other’s backs, we had much needed girls nights AND we had play dates with wine! These moms were my life line in those crazy, hectic, fly by the seat of our pants years. They were my people.
The kids grew up (as they tend to do) and we all went our separate ways to different elementary schools, some even moved to different cities, (which in LA you might as well be moving to a different country). Our kids made new friends, we made new friends and life kept going. Our kids got busier, we got busier. We’d get together for birthdays or for lunches here and there but those events became few and further apart.
But there was always that bond, the unbreakable bond of motherhood. We could not be more different in how we parent our kids. Some of us may be polar opposites in fact. I tend to be more laissez-faire, whatever will be will be, knowing that my kids will survive (that’s the pediatrician in me!) While one friend will only buy organic everything and make sure the kids are in bed at an appropriate bed time, properly dressed and signed up for all the right classes. Another friend will not adhere so closely to a schedule and knows her kids will go to sleep…eventually. Two of my friends moved to different cities so that their kids would be in the best school environment for their needs, putting their own needs and desires aside. You get where I’m going with this!
While we differ tremendously in our parenting styles, there’s 2 things that keep us together. Our love for our children and our love for each other. Physically we may be far apart but in our hearts we could not be closer! When we finally met for lunch it was as if no time had passed and we were all talking as we would have 6 or 7 years ago when our bonds started to form.
. These are a group of women that I only want the best for, like sisters, and who only want the best for me. We don’t always agree and that’s okay because the bonds we made don’t break easily and carry us through the roughest storms. I know they will be there if I need them, I know they will call me out when they need to and I know the next time we meet it will be as if no time has passed.
- Do you have mom friends that you count on for support no matter how far they are? What are your best support systems now? Who’s in your village? (We all need a village!)
“The great motherhood friendships are the ones in which two women can admit [how difficult mothering is] quietly to each other, over cups of tea at a table sticky with spilled apple juice and littered with markers without tops.”